I’ve only been married for a hot second, but I’ve been with my husband for over a decade. In fact, I feel like we’ve been married forever! I mean that in a good way, of course.
If you are finding yourself frustrated with your spouse and it’s starting to show…it is entirely likely you are about to turn a simple argument into an episode of Deadly Women. So before they find your hubby suffering from some sort of mysterious “accident” and featuring said “accident” on an episode of Snapped…here are five ways to stay happily married without going postal:
1. Bite your tongue
Not the easiest thing to do, but one of the biggest things I’ve learned about being married is that you’ve got to pick your battles. If you both disagree on a matter of great importance, stop yourself before verbally slaying your spouse because I guarantee you he won’t be impressed with your foul mouth and sarcasm. It will only make the situation worse.
2. Avoid keeping score
One of the things I’ve noticed about myself is that I’m a score keeper. If you’re a woman…you give and you give (and people take and they take). You tend to keep track of things when you ask your spouse to do something simple like take the dog out and they wince and complain. You think to yourself that you would not be so tired if you didn’t go to the grocery store, pay all the bills, picked up his dry cleaning, cleaned the house, washed his clothes, cooked dinner, did the dishes, and so on and so on. Try and avoid this! You will only be bitter and he still won’t get it. Just point to where Fido’s leash is and continue about your business!
3. Take some time for yourself
This is by far the most important thing you can do to remain a happily married woman. Schedule some time to hit the mall or spend time on your hobbies. As rewarding as being a wife and mother can be…it’s tiring. Make sure to refresh your batteries away from your spouse and it’s been my experience that space does make the heart grow fonder…or at least it makes the mind more patient.
4. Men may not be from Mars, but they’re not from where you’re from!
Women and men view things differently. If you’ve been married a while then this is not new to you. Understanding why men don’t feel as though leaving their filthy socks on the floor you’ve spent an hour cleaning is a big deal and not losing your s*&^ is the key to happiness! You have to be willing to communicate why your hubby’s behavior is irking you without going too crazy with your “self-expression” (please refer to #1 if you find yourself losing your temper).
5. Just do it
This popular Nike slogan holds true for a lot of different things in life. If you recall, I advised you to avoid keeping track of all the things your spouse doesn’t do because the list would get pretty long. Instead of focusing on what your spouse is not doing…focus on what needs to be done. Ultimately, a messy house and unpaid bills affect you as well, so don’t let pride get in the way of keeping your house in order.
Try these tips and if you don’t develop an ulcer, then you should at least be calmer and happily married!
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