With so many relationship myths out there, couples have a hard time separating myth from fact. They get so caught up in what they have heard and been told that if their relationship isn’t exhibiting certain patterns, they think there is a problem when there really might not be. This being the case, I thought I’d highlight a few that I have heard and flush them out.
Not going to bed angry: I’m going to speak for myself here because I KNOW I have gone to bed upset here and there! Even if you talk about things, you can still be upset about them and not completely 100% happy. And honestly, change doesn’t come from of a chat. It takes time to fix things.
That you become a mind reader: I don’t know about you, but I didn’t get into a relationship with my now husband and suddenly know everything about him. I was not predicting what he would order or how many times he would pee in a day. Case in point, you still have to learn each other as you go and it takes time. It won’t happen overnight so just pace yourself and enjoy the ride.
That there is a perfect marriage/relationship: I really feel like this is the biggest lie of all. There is NO such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship despite popular belief. People think because they see some lovey dovey status on twitter or some pics on facebook that everything is just perfect in their world. This is typically not the case. What people should remember is people are choosing to show what they want. Any conclusion you come to after that is on your own. But, don’t get caught up in what you see because 9 times out of 10, that’s not reality. It’s what you DON’T see thats the real mystery.
That they don’t take work: ALL relationships take work at some level. Whether your relationship is with a coworker, your mother, your husband, or best friend, all relationships at whatever level TAKE WORK. And you owe it to yourself (if you care about the person on the other end) to put in the effort to do so.
That chivalry is dead: This seems to be a gripe of quite a few women. Apparently, men today aren’t opening doors, taking out the trash, etc. But my question to ladies is, when is the last time you let a man do these things? I think because women have had to do a lot of things on their own lately, they have forgotten to LET a man take care of such things. I will say I am VERY blessed and thankful that my husband is a chivalrous dude (although he has his moments here and there when it comes to opening the car door for me), but his mother raised him right and he is typically on his p’s & q’s when it comes to such. Just remember ladies, its probably not a good idea to expect chivalry at the club while the guy next to you tries to grope your goodies.
What did I miss? Let me know!