Ladies, It’s Okay to Be High Maintenance

What does it mean to be high maintenance these days? Often times, women are usually the ones described as high maintenance (like men can’t be demanding). These women are often described as someone who requires a lot of attention and demands a lot from the man in her life. This just in…asking for what you want in a relationship doesn’t make you high maintenance ladies, it makes you smart!

Many women obsess over giving the appearance of being laid-back when dealing with guys because they feel like they’re going to be branded as one of “those girls.” What’s worse is that they believe speaking their minds, whether to express encouragement or disappointment, will make them appear overly sensitive or bitchy. But if you think about it, being hands-off in the relationship affects everything from what you’ll eat on a date to how much time you’ll wait for your guy to pick you up or even call you back. Because women are scared to be labeled high maintenance, they tend to hide their true feelings, which can lead to resentment as the relationship progresses or it can cause it to fizzle out altogether.

Ladies, we’re being ridiculous! Wanting to know where a relationship is going is not high maintenance. Wanting to eventually get married (if that’s your thing) is not high maintenance. Wanting to hang out with a guy you’re dating or getting upset when he does something upsetting is not high maintenance! These are normal human behaviors and basic relationship rights…so don’t be afraid to speak your mind.

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  • I was just talking to someone about this today! I admit that I oftentimes fear being “that girl” who complains, or my biggest fear…WHO NAGS!!! I told my friend that I can either do one of two things: express myself once and then give the guy the opportunity to fix the problem, or I can simply speak up again if the problem persists and if no change, I can make moves and decide from there what works best for me. I usually take the approach of trying to stay quiet and not doing the most by speaking up and God forbid, hold the guy “accountable” for certain behaviors. This is not the first time I’ve seen something in regards to not being “high maintenance” simply because I’m speaking up. With that being said, I’m taking this as confirmation that it’s time to use this voice once in for all. You can truly express yourself without being a nag and if the guy can’t appreciate my honesty and expressions, then we just aren’t meant to be! Effective, respectful communication is key! Great post!

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